Married Long Enough to Know This

WP_20150622_005In the beginning, all the world is perfect. You have found that someone who completes you and truly understands you and actually puts up with your shortcomings; then you get married. After a few months, you start to wonder if you did the right thing. Is this the right person? The answer is absolutely yes. You’re in an adjustment stage . . . and will be there for quite a while . . . well, until you die. After 26 years, I have 10 tips to keep your marriage fresh, exciting, and loving:

  1. Pray together and for each other.
  2. Date her. Actually set a time, dress up, and go out.
  3. In a disagreement, do not start a sentence with you.
  4. Take time every day to think of something for which you appreciate her.
  5. Set, in advance, that divorce is not an option, and never use the word as a weapon.
  6. Touch her, without if having to lead to sex.
  7. Enjoy the journey of life  . . . together.
  8. When speaking to you, stop what you are doing and look at her.
  9. Give thoughtful gifts, not necessarily expensive gifts.
  10. Listen first, even if the problem has nothing to do with you.

A marriage dies when the blood supply is cut off. Pressure of life can be a tourniquet. Be each other’s refuge against the storms. After 26 years, I’m still excited about see her at the end of the day. Nope, it’s not my anniversary. This is a subject that I believe should be talked about more, with marriages dissolving at an alarming rate. Even if the blood flow is barely trickling, try some of these things. Sit down and have a conversation.

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part; but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

I Corinthians 13:4-13

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