In the beginning, all the world is perfect. You have found that someone who completes you and truly understands you and actually puts up with your shortcomings; then you get married. After a few months, you start to wonder if you did the right thing. Is this the right person? The answer is absolutely yes. You’re in an adjustment stage . . . and will be there for quite a while . . . well, until you die. After 26 years, I have 10 tips to keep your marriage fresh, exciting, and loving:
- Pray together and for each other.
- Date her. Actually set a time, dress up, and go out.
- In a disagreement, do not start a sentence with you.
- Take time every day to think of something for which you appreciate her.
- Set, in advance, that divorce is not an option, and never use the word as a weapon.
- Touch her, without if having to lead to sex.
- Enjoy the journey of life . . . together.
- When speaking to you, stop what you are doing and look at her.
- Give thoughtful gifts, not necessarily expensive gifts.
- Listen first, even if the problem has nothing to do with you.
A marriage dies when the blood supply is cut off. Pressure of life can be a tourniquet. Be each other’s refuge against the storms. After 26 years, I’m still excited about see her at the end of the day. Nope, it’s not my anniversary. This is a subject that I believe should be talked about more, with marriages dissolving at an alarming rate. Even if the blood flow is barely trickling, try some of these things. Sit down and have a conversation.
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part; but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
I Corinthians 13:4-13